Shahadah in Islam

Question: Why is it that when people get married the women has to do what the man says? Answer: Praise be to Allaah. What the Muslim has to do when he learns the ruling of Islam is to submit to it and believe in it even if he does not know the wisdom behind it. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): “It is not for a believer, man or woman, when Allaah and His Messenger have decreed a matter that they should have any option in their decision. And whoever disobeys Allaah and His Messenger, he has indeed strayed into a plain error” [al-Ahzaab 33:36] He should be certain that there is the utmost wisdom behind all the rulings of Islam, but that wisdom may be hidden and he may not understand it. In that case he should realize that this is due to his lack of knowledge and the shortcomings of human intellect, which is not free of defects. When a man and a woman come together in marriage and live together, there are bound to be differences in opinion between ...

Praise be to Allaah. Gold is in fact yellow in colour. It may be also described as red because of having some copper mixed with it in most cases. This is what is well known among people and is mentioned in books about language, metals etc.  In al-Mu’jam al-Waseet it says: Gold is a metal that is yellow in colour.  Professor Muhammad Husayn Joodi said in his book ‘Uloom al-Dhahab wa’l-Siyaaghat al-Mujawharaat (Sciences of gold and jewels): It is well known that every kind of metal that is used in making ingots, such as copper, silver, palladium, platinum, zinc etc have an obvious effect on the ingot’s colour, hardness and melting point. Gold gives a yellow colour and prevents oxidization of the ingot. Copper gives the ingot a red colour and makes it stronger and harder. " In Islam, males are prohibited from wearing any kind of gold jeweleries (that includes ring). Based on a hadith told by Ahmad, Abu Daud, Nasa'i, Ibnu Hibban and Ibnu Majah: " Rasulullah SAW t...

By Ubah Mohamoud After engaging more with the Muslim community through activities like da`wah (calling to Islam), conferences, and halaqat (study circles), I have observed something intriguing: there seems to be a fascination—even obsession—with the topic of marriage. Regardless of whether a particular lecture is dedicated to something other than gender relations, the topic of marriage somehow always creeps up. Now, do I consider this a bad thing? Not necessarily. Indeed, considering the magnitude of fitan (trials) that many unmarried folks face, such as the pressure to date or deal with the opposite gender on terms outside of the boundaries of Islam, I believe that marriage is something that should be discussed and encouraged. What I'm more fascinated with, however, are the underlying reasons for why people –  especially the youth – want to get married so quickly. Despite not having enough resources to care for themselves, let alone a spouse, or whether ...

Masha`llah, the following is very concise and practical advice based on the words of Shaykh Muhammad Saleem Dhorat (may Allah preserve him) concerning newlyweds, and marriage in general: Source: at-Talib Prepared by Brother Aslam Patel “You have never seen anything better than marriage for those who love.” (Ibn Mãjah) Shaykh Muhammad Saleem Dhorat dãmat barakãtuhum advises: 1. Every action is dependant upon intention. When marrying, both partners should therefore make a firm intention to accomplish the following objectives: * Following the Sunnah of our beloved Nabee Muhammad صلى الله عليه وسلم. * Safeguarding oneself from sins. * Parenting pious children. 2. When marrying, each becomes the other’s lifetime companion. Each should understand and appreciate that Allah has brought them both together and that their destiny in life has now become one. Whatever the circumstances: happiness or sorrow; health or sickness; wealth or poverty; comfort or hardship...

1. The woman who applies for a divorce is required to fill an application form, which cover most of the details about the marriage itself. She has to provide a Marriage Certificate and other relevant documents. 2. On receiving the application form, the Council sends an initial form conveying her request to her husband and asking his views and com ments about her application. 3. If the husband does not reply, the Council writes a second letter again if he does not reply the Council sends a third letter giving him the final notice. To ensure the accuracy and validity of the husband's address, the Council asks the woman at this stage to verify with evidence that the address provided by her is where the husband is living. If required, the Council can arrange an individual trace report for a fee. The Council will send copies of all three letters via recorded delivery to the husband one final time. 4. In case the husband replies to any of the above letters the Co...

One of the main reasons for the spread of this phenomenon is that some parents oppressively prevent their daughters from marrying suitable young men, despite the fact that the Prophet, said: "If a man whose religion and manners you approve of comes to you (proposing to your daughter), then give her in marriage to him, otherwise, there will be turmoil on the earth and great corruption." [At-Tirmidhi & Ibn Maajah]   Some fathers breached the trust from Allaah which they have carried regarding their daughters by preventing them from marriage. It may be that a young man comes to them asking for their daughter and they delay or prohibit him for no reason, citing baseless excuses, it may be that their criteria for acceptance is trivial, such as how much his salary is, or what his career aspirations are, while at the same time totally disregarding his practice of the religion, manners and honesty. Indeed some fathers see their daughters as a piece of me...

Ever wish you could read your husband’s mind? Western culture encourages husbands and wives to talk to each other and discuss things. However, in many Muslim cultures, men are raised to be stoic and tight-lipped. Muslim husbands are very often (not always) reluctant to talk about certain things with their wives. Part of the problem is also that sometimes it is hard to actually formulate our thoughts into the right words. The only thing more difficult than translating thoughts to words is translating feelings to words. So, a lot of Muslim men and women go through their marriages with very little communication and never really knowing what the other person is thinking. This quick list is for the Muslim sisters in my audience. This list will give you good idea of some of the things your husband thinks about, but just doesn’t know how, or want, to tell you. 1. Above All, He Desires Your Respect I spoke about this in my article “Love or Respect: Which Do You ...

At the outset, before stating the rulings of Fuqahaa on oral sex, it is important to mention the emphasis Shari’ah has laid down on shame and modesty. Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) has said in Hadith: إن مما أدرك الناس من كلام النبوة ، إذا لم تستحى فافعل ما شئت "Indeed, surely people will come to know the words of prophethood. If you do not have shame, then do as you wish." (Sahih Al-Bukhari, 4/183, Dar Al-Fikr) الحياء من الإيمان والإيمان فى الجنة والبذاء من الجفاء والجفاء فى النار "Modesty is from Iman, and Iman leads you to Paradise. Shamelessness is from futile things, and futile things lead you to the fire of Hell.” (Sunan Al-Tirmidhi, 2/21, HM Saeed) In light of the abovementioned, Fuqahaa have ruled oral sex to be makruh tahreemi (an abominable act close to haraam) due to the shame and immodesty in the act and the strong possibility of najis (impure) fluids entering the mouth. Even if precaution is taken in this regard...

She was one of the noblest women around, coming from a very prominent family. She was also quite beautiful and the holder of a considerable amount of wealth, being a prominent businesswoman. To marry her would have been a great feat for any man, and indeed, quite a few of the most prominent and wealthy men in society had asked for her hand. Yet, she rejected them all; already being a widow, she had lost the desire to marry again. Until he came into her life. He was young man of 25, and although he was also of a very noble family, he was an orphan and was not a man of many means. He had made a meager living tending sheep in the hills surrounding the city. Yet, he had an impeccable moral character, and he was widely known as one of the most honest men around. That is what attracted her to him: she was looking for someone honest who could conduct business for her, as she – a woman in a fiercely patriarchal society – could not do it herself. So, he started working for her. After he came ...

The Importance Of Marrying A Righteous Spouse By Shaykhah Umm 'Abdillaah al-Waadi'iyyah (daughter of Shaykh Muqbil) Taken from Naseehatee lin Nisa Imam al-Bukhaaree (rahimullah) stated (9/132): It has been relayed to us by Musaddid that Yahya relayed to us, on 'Ubaydallaah that he said: Sa'eed bin Abee Sa'eed relayed to me, on his father, on the authority of Aboo Hurayrah (radiyallaahu anhu) on the Prophet, (sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam) that he said: "A woman is married for four (reasons): For her wealth, for her lineage, and for her beauty, so choose the one who possesses the Deen (religion) and you will be successful." [And related by Muslim (2/1086)] The meaning of the Hadeeth: The people choose wives for various reasons, and they are of four types: 1 – From them are those who strive for the rich and wealthy. 2 – From them are those who strive for good lineage and it is nobility. 3 – From them are those who strive for beauty. 4 – And from them are thos...

What is the ruling on a father preventing his daughter from marrying who she wants? Question: Some fathers prevent their daughters from marrying someone who is compatible with them. What is the ruling on this? What is the daughters' position? Answer: Praise be to Allaah. This question was put to Shaykh Muhammad ibn 'Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on him), who said: This is a serious issue and a major problem. Some men – we seek refuge with Allaah – betray Allaah and betray their trust, and cause problems for their daughters. The guardian is obliged to do that which pleases Allaah and His Messenger. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): " And marry those among you who are single (i.e. a man who has no wife and the woman who has no husband)" – i.e., give your daughters in marriage – "and (also marry) the Saalihoon (pious, fit and capable ones) of your (male) slaves and maid-servants (female slaves). " [al-Noor 24:32] The Prophet (peace and...

Problems Youth Face in Getting Married Nowadays By Fayrouz Fahmy Cairo, Egypt The Sanctity of Marriage Allah Almighty created Adam and Hawwa (Eve), and this is mentioned in the noble Qur'an: [ It is He Who has created you from a single person (Adam), and (then) He has created from him his wife [Hawwa (Eve)], in order that he might enjoy the pleasure of living with her ] (Al-A'raf 7:189). They complete each other. Due to the sanctity of the joining of man and woman, Allah refers to marriage in the Qur'an (An-Nisaa, 4:21) as a mithaq (Arabic for "solemn covenant or agreement between husband and wife"). Unfortunately, this sacred bond suffers a lot these days. Beginning of the Journey Economic problems play a decisive role in putting obstacles in the way of young people getting married these days. In a country with a high unemployment rate, such as Egypt, it is hard for a young man to find a job immediately after graduating. It might take him years before his sal...

Question : There are many matrimonial websites that allow men and women to have live and private chats. They can exchange email, addresses, phone numbers and even pictures. Many of the women even describe their bodies. There are muslim men who use the excuse that they are entitled to more than one wife, and they use a lot of their spare time on these sites and as a result, they break up their households. Among those are those who lose interest in their present wives. Some will also get angry when their wives find out what they are doing , then threaten them with divorce and they even physically abuse them.Please advise us in this matter, May Allah bless you. Answer : I say that this is a great calamity. Indeed this is a wicked act. It is an evil that comes from this technology ( the internet ) . What is mentioned in this question is not permissable for the men to be looking at these websites and the likes of this. As for a person who says that he is using these sites so he can get mar...